The Marriage You've Always Wanted

I am reading this wonderful book for a couple of months. highlighted  many practical help. hope you like it too. 

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..we cannot know each other unless we choose to communicate. Communication is an act of the will. We communicate or do not communicate by deliberate act. ~The Marriage You've always Wanted by Gary Chapman.

— thinking about someone special.

Ho Ho...

Highlighted some statements in the book today. :) Hope you like it as much as I do. 

• Communication is basically an act of will, not a matter of personality.

• marriage cannot reach its ideal unless both partners choose to communicate.

• One of the great discoveries of communication is the awesome power of the listening ear.

• James 1:19 Everyone should be quick to listen

• When you spouse is talking, it is your turn to listen. Do not sit there and reload your funs. You cannot concentrate on what she is saying if you are marshaling your own forces. Your ideas will come back to you when it is your turn.DO not worry about your ideas. Concentrate on those of your mate. 

• Listen to the facts and the feelings being expressed. In light of what she is saying, try to understand how she came to feel that way. 

• if you can understand then a statement to that effect could be a powerful medication. 

• When you are truly wrong, be ready to admit your wrongness..There is no value in rationalization. .

• ask yourself, what needs does my spouse have that i am not meeting?

• or he needs not to be interrupt, and i tend to interrupt because he takes time to pull his thoughts together. To Him is disrespecting him. 

• Love is considerate. You have the potential for meeting the needs of your mate. Phil 2:3-4 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interested, but also to the interested of others. 

• Though we cannot correct the past we are masters of the future. 

• Ask Questions about specific matters. ask for specific advice. develop some interest in your vocation or your hobbies. If it enhances oneness, it is time and money well invested. 

• Maybe there's a wound from the past that needs healing. No failure is worth a lifetime of misery. you must be willing to confess and forgive. 

• Many wives and husbands ask a question and then proceed to answer it. the other partner feel unneeded. James 1:19 Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak.